How We Write About Difficult Topics

People arrive at this site on bad days. That puts a duty on every sentence we publish. These are the rules we hold ourselves to — publicly, so you can hold us to them too.

Our content principles

• Empathy without melodrama. We take how you feel seriously without dramatizing your situation or telling you how bad it is.
• Information without diagnosis. We explain patterns and options. We never diagnose you, your partner, or your relationship.
• No gender blame. Yelling isn’t a men’s flaw or a women’s flaw. Our guides address the behavior, not a gender.
• Safety comes before engagement. Where content touches on fear or abuse, we point to professional resources first — even when that means you leave our site.

Facts and sources

Claims that can be sourced, are: we link to the original post, forum thread, or organization so you can verify it yourself. Every screenshot states the date it was taken, because search results and app behavior change over time. Hotline numbers carry a “last verified” date, and we re-check them on a schedule. If a source goes dead, we remove or replace it rather than leave a broken citation standing.

What this site is not

Nothing here is professional psychological advice, and reading this site is not a substitute for talking to a qualified person. We suggest professional help whenever yelling comes with fear for your safety, escalates over time, or leaves you consistently anxious around someone you live with — and our guides say so in those exact places, not just here.

How we keep pages current

Every guide shows a “Last updated” date, which changes only when the substance changes — not for cosmetic edits. Time-sensitive pages (our meme explainer, our hotline list) are re-tested and re-verified on their own schedules, noted on those pages.

Spotted something that breaks these rules? Tell us: [email protected]. Corrections make the site better for the next person having a bad day.